Comments on: Buddhist Relationships http://buddhismmagazine.com/buddhist-divorce The Magazine for Buddhists Dealing with Everyday Life Sun, 18 Sep 2011 05:54:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Macaco http://buddhismmagazine.com/buddhist-divorce/comment-page-1#comment-237 Macaco Mon, 11 Jan 2010 13:35:48 +0000 http://buddhismmagazine.com/?p=64#comment-237 Compassion requires understanding; compassion is not a synonym with pity. It is said that in order to attain enlightenment you have to be able to feel what everything that is felt and think everything that is thought by the person in front of you as you interact. This sounds outrageous but think that an enlightened being has been there before, and thought and felt everything the other person is feeling now. You can't have compassion until you start traveling down that road. Do not confuse your compassion with your conscience. This woman decided to marry you for a reason; and although I do not know the details of what happen, you also decided to leave each other for a reason. You made a decision, don't regret it, take the chance to learn from it and love each other more. Find out what that reason is first, be omniscient in your relation. Then once you understand her, you will feel true compassion and will be able to sort things out. Taking the road of "this woman is unwell" sounds like "she is damaged" to me. Be very careful about your rationalizations. Compassion requires understanding; compassion is not a synonym with pity.
It is said that in order to attain enlightenment you have to be able to feel what everything that is felt and think everything that is thought by the person in front of you as you interact. This sounds outrageous but think that an enlightened being has been there before, and thought and felt everything the other person is feeling now. You can’t have compassion until you start traveling down that road.
Do not confuse your compassion with your conscience. This woman decided to marry you for a reason; and although I do not know the details of what happen, you also decided to leave each other for a reason. You made a decision, don’t regret it, take the chance to learn from it and love each other more. Find out what that reason is first, be omniscient in your relation. Then once you understand her, you will feel true compassion and will be able to sort things out.
Taking the road of “this woman is unwell” sounds like “she is damaged” to me. Be very careful about your rationalizations.

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